Looks Aren’t Everything (2024)

September 4, 2017 Becca_K

I love what Cameron Russell has to say in this TED Talk. Appearance has become the topic of a lot of conversations and everyone seems to be focused onlooks starting at younger and younger ages. She gave the statistic that 53% of thirteen year-old girls are unhappy with their bodies. Thirteen year-olds? These students are 8th graders! Where are they hearing body negative language? Do they hear these things from home, school, friends, adults, media? I believe that everyone should love themselves and that they deserve support to help them truly embrace their unique selves! Cameron Russell shares that modeling is often seen as a glamorous job and it really isn’t. She said that having to focus on how you look all the time is one of the worst things that you can do when it comes to confidence. Models have to appear beautiful all the time and that makes them only focus on appearance. They are judged on appearance rather than personality. We should never judge anyone based on appearance. We need to take the time to get to know everyone!

When I was at work the other day with third and fourth graders, one of the girls said that no one liked her because she was fat. To put this in perspective, this was the first day at recess that I had not seen this girl with plenty of people so she is obviously well liked! I asked her why she said that and she replied that people tell her that all the time that she is fat. How horrible is it that a third grader is being told that she is fat? Further, why is that such an insult? She didn’t want to talk so I didn’t ask her specifics. My question is why at her young age is that one of her main focuses? She has friends, she does well in school, and overall, she seems happy. Who told this little girl that she is fat? I could not believe it.

There are a lot of people who are trying to share the message of body positive thoughts. One of the more famous people is Whitney Thore who is on “My Big Fat Fabulous Life”. She tries really hard to spread the No Body Shame Campaignwhich spreads awareness that everyone is beautiful and should be loved. What Cameron Russell had to say in this TED Talk reemphasized what I already knew about negative body thought. I have struggled with it and I have seen many people struggle with it. We all need to build each other up and help them feel beautiful inside and out instead of tearing each other down.

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I am completing my last year at Chadron State College. I am majoring in Elementary education and hope to teach lower elementary. I am from a very small town in Colorado which I hope to return to when I start teaching. This blog will be about education and topics that relate to it!View all posts by Becca_K

  1. Great read! I totally agree that this is becoming an issue with everyone at a younger age. I have a younger sister and I stress to her all the time that she is perfect in her own body. It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. It’s her body, her life and there is a reason she is that way. I can’t tell her enough that she is beautiful. It is hard for some people to accept that though. Hopefully, your video you shared will help those struggling. I know I am going to share it with my friends and family. So thank you! 🙂

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    1. I am so glad that you are a person in your sisters life to say that! I think that social media has made a huge increase in the number of people focused on their body image rather than what really matters, their personality! I hope that all of us, as future teachers, do our best to make sure that our students know that!

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      1. Social media has definitely made a huge impact on the way people view themselves.

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    1. Thank you!

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  2. Wow! I loved reading your blog! I think you touched on some important issues. My little sister is in the eighth grade and she has been called fat before. Even though she weighs like less than 100lbs she still gets hurt and thinks she doesn’t need to eat. This makes me very upset because this kind of thing ruins peoples lives. I love the TED Talk you chose because this is an ongoing issue and people need to know that they are beautiful! Great post!

    Antonya

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  3. Thank you! I have read that eating disorders have become a bigger issues that ever before and I think that stories like the one you just said are responsible for that! Thanks for sharing!

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  4. It is really sad how looks have become a top seller for people. How judgmental?! This isn’t right. And what makes it even worse is that the generation that is judging is getting younger and younger, this is scary. I feel like this is a major form of bullying and it needs to get under control.

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    1. I agree! Unfortunately, it can be very hard to monitor and control! It is so sad that it is such a problem though!

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  5. You and I actually covered the same TED talk! I found this so moving and I really feel like the message is important to pass on. I’m glad I am not alone on this! Good job!

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    1. Thank you! I found this very important as well!

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Looks Aren’t Everything (2024)

FAQs

What does "looks aren't everything" mean? ›

It's also important to remember that, as cliche, as it sounds, looks truly are not the most important thing in a relationship, and society's standards are not the authority for dictating your attractiveness. The qualities that lie beneath the surface matter most because that's what makes you who you are.

Do looks really matter in a relationship? ›

All in all, most romantic relationships involve some level of physical or sexual attraction. This means that “looks,” in a sense, do matter. However, appearances are not the foundation of a relationship, and they are certainly not the main reason that a relationship will fail or succeed in the long term.

Why is appearance everything? ›

Appearance matters, whether we like it or not. It can influence how others perceive us and can affect our confidence and self-esteem. While it's important to dress appropriately for different situations, it's also important to be true to ourselves.

Why looks aren't everything in a relationship? ›

While beauty and physical attraction undeniably contribute to initial attraction, they alone cannot sustain a relationship in the long run. For a relationship to truly thrive, shared interests, individual qualities, emotional connection, and, most importantly, love are the essential pillars.

Are guys only attracted to looks? ›

When I asked my friend Dante about the things men like about women other than looks, he said something rather interesting. He said that most men want to see passion — and not just in the bedroom. Dante said that most men are very attracted to women who have passions outside of sex, getting married, and having kids.

Do men care more about looks or personality? ›

Researchers looked at nine different traits and when it comes to dating, women care more about intelligence, education, age, and the emotional connection they form. As for guys, they care more about looks and body type… But that isn't the case their whole lives.

What's more important, looks or personality? ›

Of a sample of more than 1,000 users made available to BBC Future, almost 90% preferred personality over looks. Measuring someone's personality can be tricky. Psychometric tests, which usually take the form of a questionnaire, have been used for decades in psychiatry as a way to quantify personality.

Does love depend on looks? ›

Love is not all about looks. You could meet someone who has the qualities of a great partner but lacks something you desire, like their physical appearance. However, a relationship based on physical appearances has an expiration date and will end as soon as the looks diminish for whatever reason.

What is appearance not everything in life? ›

Only external appearance cannot decide the personality of an individual. We also need to look at his inherent inner qualities which are sometimes latent. In order to manifest the true nature and qualities of someone, time is required. A person with an ordinary appearance can be a great person.

How important is a person's appearance? ›

Your appearance is the one personal characteristic that is immediately obvious and accessible to others. You can't hide it. Your appearance makes a strong statement about your personality, values, attitudes, interests, knowledge, abilities, roles, and goals.

How do I stop obsessing over my appearance? ›

Here's how to stop the Face Hate madness.
  1. Give yourself a break. You're not alone. ...
  2. For the love of God, turn off self-view. ...
  3. Don't compare and despair. ...
  4. Embrace a mirror work practice. ...
  5. Ditch the obsession, embrace healthy worship. ...
  6. Don't hate, decorate. ...
  7. Remember: Intention is everything. ...
  8. Feel your feels.
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What does not everything looks as it seems mean? ›

Possible meaning:

Things may look like one thing but be another thing. This saying is often applied to situations, not just things or people.

Why do some people look mean but aren t? ›

Natural facial features

Slanting eyebrows, a heavy brow, a creased forehead, deep set or squinting eyes, or a naturally intense gaze can all make someone look angrier than they are. Large eyes can make people look more worried and startled. Naturally downturned lips can cause a person look like they're frowning.

What is it called when something looks like something but isn t? ›

Some common synonyms of illusion are delusion, hallucination, and mirage. While all these words mean "something that is believed to be true or real but that is actually false or unreal," illusion implies a false ascribing of reality based on what one sees or imagines.

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